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Brother Bill Wood as teenager in 1957.

Nurturing Family Connections

My older brother, Bill Wood, tragically died in 2008.  His son and daughter are now in their mid-40s.  Chuck, who closely resembles his grandfather Donald, and wife Jeanie had three boys and a girl.  Mimi, who looks so like her dad and Grandma Mary Ann Wood, had two girls.  Each year the Wood family gathers together for food and fun, but the few hours together prevents deeper connections.  So I enjoy visiting them as often as possible each year. Recently I spent time with Mimi's girls, Ada and Chelsea.  My main reason is to foster in each one the adventurous and fun-loving Wood traits of my father and the creative and commonsense traits of my mom.  My personal philosophy is that each of us needs to reach out to family members not closely connected and relate stories that both entertain, but also to inspire and enlighten.  All the grandnieces and grandnephews love hearing the stories, such as:   How desperately poor Mom…

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Does Not Walk Alone

Those are the first longhand written medical words, under CHIEF COMPLAINT, of my historical orthopedic records.  Born on June 18, 1949, I contracted polio on December 9, 1949—almost six months after my birth.  Actually, my Mom always stated the date as December 10th, and she would remember best because the incident occurred two days after her birthday.  Mom told the story so many times—how I woke up crying around midnight and when she lifted me out of the crib and touched my right hip, I screamed with pain.  She immediately knew it was polio.  So I use December 10th as the date that changed my life forever.  These orthopedic medical records document the first doctor visit, observation and rehabilitation hospital stays, surgeries, the many Plaster of Paris cast removals, braces, broken bones, and then the onslaught of post-polio.  I am extremely lucky to possess these pages. The file passed from the original orthopedic doctor’s office on to three different specialists in separate practices. …

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Rae Bower – Creating a Diverse and Inclusive Community Legacy

Doug and Rae Bower left New Zealand in June 2004 and returned to Seattle, Washington.  Searching for a mechanical engineering position, Doug accepted a job with a Smiths Industries Ltd. in Grand Rapids.  The British corporation purchased Lear-Siegler, an aviation parts manufacturer.  The Bowers then moved to the community in late 2004. They looked for an accessible house, but found none without entrance steps, so they decided to build an accessible home.  Until the house was built, the couple chose an extended stay motel close to Doug’s job that was several blocks south of the 28th Street southeast popular shopping district Independent-minded Rae made an appointment with a dentist, whose office was located a half-mile away, north of 28th Street.  She assured Doug she didn’t need him to drive her to the office since the office was close, so he drove to work. Now a master of her electric-powered wheelchair, Rae easily breezed out of the motel only to suddenly come to a…

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Rae Bower — One Person Made a Big Difference

When I first met Rae Bower, I immediately noticed her large motorized wheel chair.  Within nanoseconds, though, my eyes focused on her beautiful face.  Translucent skin framed high cheekbones and a smile that drew you right to her and went all the way up to her embracing eyes. Then she greeted me in a quiet voice with a lilting accent.  Rae announced she was born in New Zealand.  Why do we love such accents? We met at a Disability Advocates of Kent County (Michigan) Board of Directors meeting, of which I was an officer and Rae was a new member.  She introduced herself as having marketing skills and hoped to utilize her talents in expanding accessibility for persons with a disability, especially regarding sidewalks and expanding transportation services.  Few knew that Rae already made a huge difference in a New Zealand community and that she would steamroll much needed accessibility changes in Grand Rapids in less than 10 years. NEW ZEALAND Raewyn…

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ROMANCE DOWN UNDER

When Doug Bower met Rae in 1980 while hiking in New Zealand, little did he realize they would find romance, become soulmates, and share an adventurous life together. Abel Tasman National Park probably seemed exotic to the young American.  Located in the northwest part of New Zealand’s southern island, the guidebooks glowingly described this coastal paradise with its golden sandy beaches, granite cliffs, crystal clear streams, mossy valleys, and native forests as ‘Great Walks’.  Even the names of the forest birds seemed exotic—tüï, korimako/bellbirds, törea/ oystercatchers, köau/shags, and little kororä/blue penguins. Rae and her then boyfriend met the American while walking along the sea trail.  Since they were all heading in the same direction, the couple asked Doug to join them hiking and camping for the remaining two days.  While crossing a swing bridge, Rae took Doug’s picture as he gingerly crossed over the river, capturing a treasured experience.  Once they reached the sea trail’s end, they all said “good-bye”, with Doug continuing biking…

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Continuing Adventures

In 1981 Rae packed up her belongings, bade farewell to her family and friends, and crossed the Pacific to live in Seattle, Washington, where Doug previously worked before his “Down Under: explorations.  Neither had jobs, but being in their mid-twenties, this new life together was another exciting adventure and both felt optimistic something would turn up—which it did.  Microsoft, started in 1975, formed a partnership with IBM the same year the couple planted roots in the Seattle area.  Tech companies quickly sprouted in the region and the local economy soared.  Doug returned to the company where he previously worked. In 1982 the two married in a quiet ceremony.  Only a short month after they married, the young couple experienced a heart wrenching complication.  Rae underwent a hysterectomy, which meant she could not have children.  Both were devastated. Immediately Doug and Rae started the adoption process, knowing it would be a very long process.  They both believed that adopting a child from another…

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